It usually takes me a while to find my voice, to think it through, to weigh both sides of an issue. The thing is, I will no longer try to read between the lines. If you come to me with so and so said, you better be prepared to name names and be specific, and oh hey, lets call so and so and verify.
And if you have something to say to me, call me, e-mail me or do what you must to talk to me in person, don’t tell so and so, be vague, or make a passing reference. I think its healthier to be honest. Otherwise we just fester assuming things.
I keep thinking of old songs like “We didn’t start the fire.” I believe most people want the same thing, to be loved to be worthy and to be respected. I think people can change, do change and we shouldn’t keep going back to that one time they did such and such. And also? oh horrors, I think most people act out of pure motives, as in they care about people and want what’s best for them.
We also shouldn’t assume everyone is out to be mean and get us. Maybe, just maybe they are as lost and confused as you and trying to just live their lives. Maybe? what they are doing has nothing to do with you. Why assume the worst? What does that say about you?
You know that game at Chuck e Cheese? the one where the moles pop up and you smack them back down? Sometimes when people try to get out of the label we have assigned them that’s how they get treated, smacked back down where they belong. But in subtler nastier ways. By gossip, by innuendo, by anger cause they have something we don’t. Or they think we have something they don’t.
A true friend who has a problem with you will tell you, in an appropriate manner. Because maybe things aren’t as they are percieved. A true friend doesn’t believe the worst, and doesn’t blame you for what someone else did.
I turn on the tube and what do I see
A whole lotta people cryin’ ’don’t blame me’
They point their crooked little fingers ar everybody else
Spend all their time feelin’ sorry for themselves
Victim of this, victim of that
Your momma’s too thin; your daddy’s too fat
Get over it
Get over it
All this whinin’ and cryin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over it
You say you haven’t been the same since you had your little crash
But you might feel better if I gave you some cash
The more I think about it, old billy was right
Let’s kill all the lawyers, kill ’em tonight
You don’t want to work, you want to live like a king
But the big, bad world doesn’t owe you a thing
Get over it
Get over it
If you don’t want to play, then you might as well split
Get over it, get over it
It’s like going to confession every time I hear you speak
You’re makin’ the most of your losin’ streak
Some call it sick, but I call it weak
You drag it around like a ball and chain
You wallow in the guilt; you wallow in the pain
You wave it like a flag, you wear it like a crown
Got your mind in the gutter, bringin’ everybody down
Complain about the present and blame it on the past
I’d like to find your inner child and kick it’s little ass
Get over it
Get over it
All this bitchin’ and moanin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over it
Get over it
Get over it
It’s gotta stop sometime, so why don’t you quit
Get over it, get over it
Eagles